IN A GOOD WAY!
Really, it’s beautiful out. I fully intend to write a post about some of my new favorite television-y things, including some rad commentary on gay visibility in the media.
I also am going to talk about some silly laws and some sad stuff that happened in the news recently. 10 points and a high-five if you can guess what these are!
Now, though, I’m going on a dog-walking, apartment-hunting adventure, and you’ll just have to wait! If you don’t have beautiful weather, I feel bad for you.
Also, pro tip, walking a dog around a nice neighborhood on a beautiful day is actually a GREAT date idea. And the greatest part is that it doesn’t matter if you’ve been dating a long time or not, because dogs are partner-magnets (unless it’s a Chinese crested, then you’re probably SOL there…) and who doesn’t enjoy being in the sun?
I guess what I’m trying to say is, don’t go on a dog-walking date if you have an ugly dog. But, DO go on dog-walking dates, because everyone wins! There’s the cute factor with the dog, the nice factor with the weather, it’s a great way to get a little exercise in, and you can talk about pretty much anything! Some of my greatest conversations with my ladyfriend have been while walking our respective dogs. It’s my professional opinion that you should walk dogs with significant others.
In other news, it’s Pi Day! What’s Pi Day? Well, it’s March 14th, or 3-14, which are the first couple of digits of Pi, a really long irrational number that is involved with geometry and such.
Go eat some pie after walking your dog with your significant other (or a friend even), because pie is delicious and really, there are SO MANY KINDS of pie! There’s pumpkin and blueberry and sweet potato and apple and French silk and pretty much whatever you can think of!
Regularly-unscheduled postings will happen at some other point. I’m going outside!
Hello and welcome back to me, I’ve been off doing silly things like studying for classes and celebrating my 3-year anniversary with my wonderful girlfriend!
To mark this amazing occasion, the lady took me out to a fancy-pants restaurant (or at least a lot fancier than places we usually eat, like McDonald’s…) The waitstaff was wearing nice pressed white shirts, white aprons, and very fancy dark blue jeans, so it wasn’t necessarily a black-tie place, but we dressed up nonetheless, ate some fancy food, drank some fancy wine, and had a great time!
Over the course of the evening, from the preparation to the restaurant events, got me thinking: Valentine’s day is coming up, and probably some folks are gonna go to a fancy restaurant. Through my extensive field research and my own mistakes, I have created a how-to survival guide for just such an occasion! LUCKY YOU.
First of all, pick the restaurant well before you go. Most places have websites now, and sometimes you can even check out the menu before you get there. DO THIS. Reading up on the place and practicing pronouncing dishes (plus maybe looking at what’s IN dishes like that on Google or something), is a really great tactic. This way you look smooth, smart, and above all, prepared. And don’t forget to make a reservation. Show up on time. It’s kind of rude to go to a place and expect them to have held your table for you, especially when Valentine’s Day is probably the busiest restaurant day ever.
Second, dress up! For god’s sake, isn’t it fun to put on nice clean clothes, make sure you’re all gussied up and lookin’ hot? It’s different from going to a club where you’re trying to attract attention, and different from like a funeral or wedding where you HAVE to dress up. This is where you can let these two styles collide – the dressy bit and the flair! Don’t you dare wear a novelty tie, though, those things are not funny and I have no idea why they still make them. You can ask what sort of outfit your date will be wearing, and try to dress so you don’t clash horribly (but you don’t have to match – that’s way too “high school prom”)
Next we get to the behavioral aspects of your night out! I realize this is going to sound very old-fashioned, but wait for your lady to sit down, pull her chair out, push it in for her. Be genuine and polite. I hope you still genuinely enjoy her company! My girlfriend did this for me and it was surprising and adorable at the same time. It’s not about “putting a woman in her place” in this instance; it’s about showing you still really care about her.
When you’re ordering anything at a restaurant, do NOT, under any circumstances, give a waiter a “thumbs-up” or an “okay” sign. I did this and I still feel stupid about it! To be fair, I had a mouthful of appetizer when he presented the bottle of wine for tasting, and I nodded while chewing and gave the “okay” sign – I’m feeling a right idiot more than a week later, how do you think you will feel after Valentine’s Day? Since my hindsight is 20/20, I should have nodded, put up a finger in the “one moment please” gesture, and finished my mouthful. Bam, survival tip you can use over and over again!
Don’t rest your elbows on the table. If you have to rest your hands somewhere, put one hand on a lap, and have your other forearm resting on the edge of the table. Sit up relatively straight, so your nice clothes don’t get all messed up. You’ll look better and more attentive to your sweetheart anyway. Also, remember that you’re wearing really nice pants that you don’t want to drop food/wipe food on! They give you big napkins at most restaurants, so shake ’em out and set them on your lap. Cover those slacks, chaps, it’s okay to protect ’em! Just don’t forget it’s on your lap when you stand up to leave – that will also be kind of embarrassing.
I hope you all have a great way of celebrating Valentine’s Day! And who knows, later in the week there might be a “how to survive Valentine’s Day” guide for you single folks! Thanks for reading!
The vast majority of women in America wear underthings. Of that majority, a lot of them seem to like having really nice underthings. You know, there’s just something super-swell that makes me feel great when I wear nice underthings.
Enough about my underpants. Women sometimes go to places like Victoria’s Secret and are bombarded with 8,000 kinds of bras, and about 7 options for underwear styles. It’s gonna take them some time to get through all this stuff, even if they thought they knew what they wanted before you even left the house.
I went on one such excursion not too terribly long ago, and I wasn’t flying solo. Yes, my ladyfriend needed new undergarments, and of course I would never pass up the opportunity to see her picking out attractive yet comfortable and functional underthings! However, this meant that I was the awkward person near the fitting rooms waiting for her to be done. It’s weird when you’re a girl, because the store employees are super nice and they keep asking, “do you need help with anything?” I wish I could say, “Nope, just waiting to see how great my ladyfriend’s rack looks when she comes out of that little room!”
But it gave me a new perspective on what guys must go through being the waiter-onner for someone trying stuff on. More likely than not, most gentleman-friends aren’t interested in the wares of Victoria’s Secret (unless you’re helping pick things out), so you can’t even claim the pretext of “I’m just browsing” without probably feeling a little weird. That’s gotta be rough! So how do you do it?
The best trick I have learned in my not so long life is that it’s very important to always look like you know what you’re doing. It’s part body language – stand up straight, be alert, and walk with confidence, my friend! – and part not looking like an overwhelmed lost puppy. This means don’t hang out like a creeper by the fitting rooms. It’s okay to wander around the store and look at other things. Your ladyfriend can help you by letting you know what size she wears, so if you wanted you could pick things out for her to try on. Everybody wins that way!
The other really important thing to remember is that it’s okay to touch the merchandise. I’m not saying you can necessarily go fondle the cups on all the bras (and definitely don’t fondle any of the employees, that’s just a bad idea all the time), but you can pick things up and take a look at them. Go one. I know you have probably wondered what the difference between a regular bra and a push-up bra was. Take a look! You might be a little bummed out to find that thongs look uncomfortable just sitting on a table (and maybe you can draw the conclusion that although they’re pretty, they’re probably really uncomfortable in real life on a body too!) But go ahead, look around and check out all the patterned underoos they have everywhere.
One other great distraction that Victoria’s Secret in particular has is a HUGE wall of lotions and smelly things. Go smell them. Yes, I’m totally serious. If you haven’t, you’re missing out. Find something delicious and ask your ladyfriend if she wants to smell like that sometimes, because she’ll probably be really glad you’re taking an interest in this store, and in how she smells!
Last but not least, if for some reason your lady won’t tell you her size and you feel super awkward, you can always reserve the right to agree to meet somewhere else after a given amount of time, possibly at another store. That’s part of the wonder of cell phones and watches – instantaneous contact means you don’t really lose people in malls. I would vote this as a last-ditch effort, though, because I think it’s important to get out and do stuff with your significant other. And that’s what I think is really Victoria’s Secret.
Okay, so I know my Hot Queer Ladies post included some bisexual and lesbian singers/musicians, but this is a post exclusively devoted to some of my favorites. Why? Because I promised you awesome things and if this isn’t a post full of awesome, then I should really just quit now.
Oh, Vanessa Carlton. Seriously all I can think right now is “She looks good in that corset”.
I can’t call Joan Jett “the grandmother” of anything because I’m pretty sure she’d kick my ass. BUT I can say she will rock the crap out of anything she touches. Oh, and she’s way hotter than I could probably ever hope to be. Sad, but mmm, Joan Jett.
I’m relatively certain the only way I could find Lady Gaga hotter is if she learned how to wear pants. I’m not complaining, I just think she’d look cute in some baggy cargos or whatever.
She can only do one thing, and that’s be Lady Sovereign… She’s good at it. Check her stuff out, if it doesn’t get you moving and probably giggling, you’re not human and there is no hope for you.
I’m usually appropriately suspicious of people with two first names, but I forgive Holly Miranda because 1, she’s gorgeous, 2, she’s talented, and 3, she covers Jeff Buckley. Any arguments? No? Good.
Leisha Hailey is at the top of my list of People I Want To Be. Why? She’s an actor, songwriter, singer, bassist, and she was TOTALLY in those Yoplait commercials back in the day AND my favorite character on “The L Word”. That’s why.
I’ll be the first to admit this woman scares the SHIT out of me. Otep Shamaya is one of the most metal women ever, and she has some awesome music. Also, she’s kind of badass. By which I mean “approaching-Joan-Jett-levels-of-badassery”. Her music is hard to get into but perfect for an angry day. Try it.
And now we have Melissa Ferrick, who is one of those musicians you’ve probably heard in interviews with other lady musicians. Why? Because she’s been around for quite some time and is totally freaking awesome, that’s why. And she’s still doing it, which is the important thing.
I saved the best for last, and here’s why: when I was a baby dyke in Cleveland Ohio, I went out to a gay club one night and, true story, helped her tear down her gear. I was too young and she was too busy and we were being pushed out of the way by drunk clubbers. She gave me a free CD and autographed it, hugged me and disappeared. I found out a few years ago that this woman, Katie Reider, had passed away from a horribly rare tumor-related condition. But pictures like the one above, and the memories of her being really gracious and nice to an obnoxious lonely kid in a club in Ohio are how I’m choosing to remember her, and that’s just another reason why I think she’s one incredibly kickass queer artist. RIP Katie.
Okay boys, I’m trying something a little different today. Sometimes I just wanna look at hot girls, know what I mean? Of course you do. Well today I’m gonna give you some pretty ladies who are awesome, talented in some way or another, and really attractive. And not on your team. Why? Because I can. Why else? Because I like to change people’s perceptions of gay and queer ladies sometimes, and now I can do that online! Don’t worry, I’ll get you back with some ladies that top my “Should Be Gay” list.
ENOUGH TALK ALREADY! Let’s get to some unreasonably amazing and attractive ladies!!!!!
Okay, this girl is absolutely gorgeous. Not to mention she’s like 25 and has been in some nifty movies like Zombieland and Drive Angry. She’s got that classic 40s movie star look about her, and yes. She’s dating a lady. Also, she’s into muscle cars and guns, and has been interviewed on Top Gear… Marry me, Amber?
This lady made big news by coming out publicly while being a big deal in the country music world. I don’t know a lot about country, but I do know Ms Wright is hot and probably really talented too.
One half of the music duo Tegan and Sara, I feel as though Sara is the more attractive twin. Not to mention an AWESOME guitarist. Go see them live, check out the awesome things they do to raise money for stuff (like sell their own instruments to make money for Tsunami victims)
Oh lord, where do I start with her? My girlfriend doesn’t like her because I am in love with Heather Peace. Why? She plays an awesomely butch cop on an awesomely gay show (Lip Service) and is a pretty decent musician. Not to mention that sense of style, I mean… Really.
Okay. Tattoos… Out-drinking Bam Margera… Dating ladies… Where do I sign up? This little spitfire is a hot Australian and probably a future ex-girlfriend of mine.
Well duh. She drank blood, adopted orphans from like fifteen countries, played one of the biggest gay lady icons (dykon, if you will) EVER, of course she’s dated women. She dated a female costar of a movie they play on Lifetime, Jenny Shimizu, and has said she’d have married her if not for whats his face (SCANDAL)
I’m madly in love with this woman. If you’ve never heard her music, shame on you. Go see her live, buy her records. I would part with at least one limb to meet her, and then I’d die happier than you could ever imagine. I love Brandi Carlile. Her music rocks, she’s super good-lookin’, and… Um… Yeah, nothing more constructive to say about this.
Your favorite vampire food is WHAT?! Yeah, she also dates chicks. Or at least has dated chicks. This makes her a-okay in my book/on my blog, not to mention she’s friggin HOT.
Is there anything better than a gorgeous woman who can cook? Yes. A gorgeous GAY woman who can cook. At least, for me. She’s an Iron Chef for god’s sake, and she has 4 kids. I can’t decide if I want her to adopt me or date me – either way I want her to cook for me.
The extremely fabulous Margaret Cho is also, GASP, bisexual! She’s been a big advocate for the queer community, not to mention she’s an attractive, witty, curvy, tattooed lady (now who does that sound like…? Oh, me!)
ABS! I mean, seriously, she’s unreasonably hot AND fit… It’s rumored she dated Jillian Michaels back in the day (who would be on this list if I could photoshop out her face), and Ms Warner had a show about her gym and life called “Work Out” which involved her dealing with crazy girlfriends. Now she’s got one called “Thintervention” and I just have to say, Jackie Warner you can put me through your boot camp ANYTIME. Seriously. Call me.
Okay, before I go any further, let’s just give a great big thank-you wave to the folks down under, because this Australian musician not only makes awesome music but she’s SO HOT. Why are Australians so hot? Are there any ugly people from there? Anyway, Missy here is not so openly bisexual, but has some songs about being queerly inclined like this one. She’s said in interviews she hopes people will focus on her music instead of her personal life. I’m pretty sure I can do both.
The British version of Katy Perry is actually… BISEXUAL. OH NOES. I can’t say I love her music, but she’s cute and pretty open about herself, “I’ve never denied it. Whoopie doo guys, yes, I’ve dated girls and I’ve dated boys – get over it.” And I gotta say, I like her style.
our favorite killer robot, the T-X from Terminator 3, dates girls. Painkiller Jane is into ladies. Not exclusively, so you still have a shot, but she was also part of the TV series The L Word. This could only be better if she was dating that lady from Chuck.
Alright guys, if on the off chance I didn’t make this list awesome enough, please let me know – I don’t think I missed anyone really noteworthy though. And don’t worry, I’ll have another series starting up soon entitled “Girls I Wish Were Gay” because it’s a list at LEAST 3 times longer than this one.