This Is A Rant
Posted: 01/15/2012 Filed under: Behavior, Girl Talk, Girls, LGBTQ | Tags: advice, announcements, behavior, boys, girl talk, girls, links, rants
The first thing on the menu tonight is an issue near and dear to my heart, not because I was bullied hardcore as a kid, but because toward the middle and end of high school (and after), I became the bully. It’s also really goddamn depressing, so if you’re looking for some comedy this post ain’t for you. Read about underwear or look at hot ladies, or if you’re not into that stuff then you’re really in the wrong place.
So let’s talk about something that’s usually a big elephant in the room. No, I’m not making a fat joke, I mean that metaphor. It’s really freaking difficult to talk to women, about women, or around women, when the conversation turns to weight.
Unless you are truly concerned about someone’s health, shut your freaking mouth. Don’t say ANYTHING because you know what, that girl might be just a-okay with her body image. Furthermore, I don’t know if people realize that “names will never hurt me” only goes so far, it only works a handful of times. When you hear someone call you a “fatass” over and over and over, or you are big but get blasted by rail-thin human beings on a consistent basis, let me tell you it freaking hurts.
Don’t judge people on how they look. It’s not cool, and odds are most girls don’t think it’s attractive. If they tell you it’s okay or they giggle at it, they’re probably fucking liars. And jerks. Run away from them. And girls, why the hell would you ever belittle another person, particularly another woman
Margaret Cho recently had to deal with some of this, and her words are way better than mine are. Go read this. And then read more of her stuff, because it’s great.
The second thing that’s simply put, fucking heartbreaking, is that someone who worked really hard on the It Gets Better project has taken his own life. Even though things and events in Eric James Borges’ life may have gotten better, his potential depression and anxiety might not have. You can read a really well-written article at Autostraddle, and watch Borges’ It Gets Better video.
I have a big beef with the idea that men aren’t allowed to cry or have feelings or be anything other than “butch brawny dudebros”. It’s a bunch of bull, and it’s okay to get help and talk about how you feel and to try to make things better in your life. If you’re in college, check on campus for possibly free or at least inexpensive talk therapy. People may judge you, but it’s your happiness against their pettiness. Fuck them, do what you need to do.
Also on the list of things that are REALLY pushing my buttons (in a bad way):
Rick Perry defending Marines peeing on dead Afghan militants…. and comparing it to General George Patton taking a wee in the Rhine River during World War Two. Because, you know, pissing on dead bodies is the same as insulting some of the worst humans ever (Nazis). And further, he’s using the excuse that basically boys will be boys. The idea that a man who has proven to be so absolutely stupid is STILL running for president makes me consider a) committing a murder and (maybe worse) b) getting into politics.
Second, and potentially even dumber… Joe Paterno, former Penn State University football coach, “didn’t know exactly how to handle it” when faced with accusations against the monster on his coaching staff.. Really, JoePa? You couldn’t maybe pick up a phone and call the cops because a CHILD was being RAPED? Seriously. This is another prime example that good enough simply wasn’t good enough.
On top of all of this, the Packers lost. Maybe you guys should start giving ME pointers on how to deal with these kinds of anger-inducing things. Or you could tell me what really grinds YOUR gears…?