Man Up and Pay For Dinner. ALL of It.Posted: 02/05/2011
I’m going to say this as simply as possible.
You ALWAYS pay for dinner.
Unless this is explicitly discussed and settled before the date, you are going to pay for the whole meal. Why?
1. Avoid Awkwardness
Have you ever been on a date with someone that you’re pretty sure is going to rock your world, only to have the check arrive and the weirdness to come out? It’s never fun and never sexy to try and split a bill. Instead of unnecessary confusion and general awkwardness for you and your date, just pay for it. Which brings me to my next point.
2. Show her you are in control
Nothing sends “I am SO in control” signals to someone like taking care of the whole check. This is almost a guaranteed lady-boner-inducer (provided you have had a good conversation/dinner/pre-dinner-bill experience!), so why not give yourself a few more points in her book and just DO it?
3. It’s impressive!
Boys who can handle spending some money without seeming like a douchebag are totally hot. Trust me. (And this is coming from someone who doesn’t usually LIKE dudes, so you KNOW I am telling the truth here). Women LOVE this kind of thing, not because it shows you can buy lots of crap on a whim, but because you have secure enough finances to have and do more elegant or nicer things. Generosity is not only impressive, but it’s VERY attractive.
Okay, here are a couple of things that you should never do. If you do them, you will not be getting any. At all. Ever.
1. NEVER (EVER EVER EVER!) ASK THE WAITER TO SPLIT YOUR CHECK
This is just as classless as trying to do it yourselves, only you’ve drawn in a third party. Some fancier establishments don’t even let you DO this, so it’s best to avoid all the nonsense and just buy dinner. The lady will see that you are serious about this date when you don’t even bat an eye about who’s paying. Seriously.
2. Skipping the tip
When you’re done with dinner, what’s the next logical step? Pay the check and leave the restaurant. Go to someone’s place, and see where the night takes you. THIS IS A TRICK QUESTION. You forgot to tip your waiter! Do not pass GO, do not get laid. This is a great way to get you noticed though – as a JERK. So don’t forget the tip. Why?
Not only does this show a girl that you know what you’re doing in a restaurant setting, but it sends the message that you care about other people. How much better can this situation be? And it’s pretty painless, once you think about it. You’ve probably already spent some cash on clothing for the date, and maybe flowers or something else, and then there’s the cost of dinner – you may as well just splurge and give your server what he or she deserves (and sometimes a little extra). Your date will appreciate the classy gesture, you will look flush but not smugly, arrogantly wealthy, and you will look sensitive to the needs and efforts of others. 20% minimum, especially in this economy. If you aren’t sure what the tip ought to be, round the bill up and do some speedy mental math. It’ll work out.
I am not saying you have to take her to an expensive place. Not at all. In fact, if you aren’t sure you can afford a certain restaurant, then don’t go there. And if you can’t afford to tip accordingly, then you really can’t afford that restaurant.
The really nice places, the SUPER DUPER “I am trying to impress you to get laid” places? They won’t have their prices on the menus. Call ahead, and be prepared.